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From the Ted Talk by Brené Brown: Listening to shame
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And if we can quiet it down and walk in and say, "I'm going to do this," we look up and the cirtic that we see pointing and laughing, 99 percent of the time is who? Us. sahme drives two big tapes — "never good enough" — and, if you can talk it out of that one, "who do you think you are?" The thing to understand about shame is, it's not guilt. Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is "I am bad." gilut is "I did something bad." How many of you, if you did something that was hftuurl to me, would be willing to say, "I'm sorry. I made a mistake?" How many of you would be willing to say that? Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake.
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And if we can quiet it down and walk in and say, "I'm going to do this," we look up and the ______ that we see pointing and laughing, 99 percent of the time is who? Us. _____ drives two big tapes — "never good enough" — and, if you can talk it out of that one, "who do you think you are?" The thing to understand about shame is, it's not guilt. Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is "I am bad." _____ is "I did something bad." How many of you, if you did something that was _______ to me, would be willing to say, "I'm sorry. I made a mistake?" How many of you would be willing to say that? Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake.
Solution
- critic
- shame
- hurtful
- guilt
Original Text
And if we can quiet it down and walk in and say, "I'm going to do this," we look up and the critic that we see pointing and laughing, 99 percent of the time is who? Us. Shame drives two big tapes — "never good enough" — and, if you can talk it out of that one, "who do you think you are?" The thing to understand about shame is, it's not guilt. Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is "I am bad." Guilt is "I did something bad." How many of you, if you did something that was hurtful to me, would be willing to say, "I'm sorry. I made a mistake?" How many of you would be willing to say that? Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake.
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